Short answer: I don’t.
Meaning, I am not setting goals for you.
I am not going to tell you how many people to date, or when to have sex or not to have sex, or if you should date 10 people at once.
You have to tell me about your goals. Then, I will tell you what will work to reach them.
My goal was what I called “The White Picket Fence” which generally included marriage or a married existence. I had vacillated on this a lot since getting divorced. My God who would ever want to go through that again! Geez, I am surprised I am still alive let alone engaged to someone else.
But I looked at the big picture, found my center, cried and yell and met a couple of nice blokes and then it settled on me. I am the marrying kind. I like certainty. I want security. I want as close to an in-tact family as I can have.
I didn’t scream “Please Marry Me” to every guy who passed by, but all of my dates fell into two categories: marriage material, not marriage material. For me. Maybe someone else would have married them in a second, but I knew what I wanted.
I dated someone for 4 years that kept flip-flopping between marriage material and not marriage material. Finally, I called it. Then I met someone who was totally in the marriage category. Except he was still married. And didn’t tell me. That revelation quickly moved him to the not marrying material camp.
So that’s a lot of information just to tell you that I believe everyone’s goals are super personal and intimate and I cannot set them for you. I can discuss them with you and help you build a personal brand that gets you closer to your goals.
I would love to chat more!